This past weekend I began a stint as an interim preacher for a church who is in-between preachers. In this role, I provide a consistent pulpit presence, consult with the church leaders on issues of congregational health and effectiveness, and guide their search process for a new minister.

But one of the most important things I bring to them is a calming presence.

Seasons of transition, like the one this congregation is going through, can be filled with anxiety, doubts, questions, and uncertainty. So, one of the best things leaders can do, in response, is provide a non-anxious presence that calms the anxiousness of others and helps the organization move forward with confidence and hope.

Renowned executive coach and author Marshall Goldsmith provides the following advice on how to cultivate a calming presence:

1. Practice Mindfulness: Engage in mindfulness practices such as meditation or deep breathing exercises. This can help you remain centered and calm, even in stressful situations.
2. Be Present: Focus on being fully present in the moment. When you are with others, give them your full attention. This communicates respect and can have a calming effect.
3. Listen Actively: Listen to understand, not just to respond. This means paying attention to both the words being said and the non-verbal cues being communicated.
4. Manage Your Emotions: Recognize when you’re feeling stressed or anxious and have strategies in place to manage these emotions. This might include taking a moment to breathe deeply or excusing yourself briefly to regain composure.
5. Slow Down: Speak slowly and clearly. Rushing through your words can convey anxiety and stress. A measured pace can be very calming to those around you.
6. Maintain Open Body Language: Use open and relaxed body language. Avoid crossing your arms or other closed-off postures that can seem defensive or create tension.
7. Cultivate Positive Energy: Focus on maintaining a positive attitude. Positivity can be infectious and help to create a more relaxed environment.
8. Be Empathetic: Show empathy towards others. Understanding and relating to others’ feelings can help to diffuse tense situations and promote a sense of calm.

Remember, developing a calming presence is a skill that takes practice. By incorporating these habits into your daily interactions, you can become a more calming influence in both your personal and professional life.